Respect – You Deserve It

One of the worst things I hear when people tell me their dating horror stories is this feeling that the person doesn’t think that they deserve respect in a relationship. It’s completely beyond me when someone doesn’t realize that they’re being treated poorly and that it’s NOT ok.

If you find your Prince Charming or your Princess, this is not something you’ll ever have to worry about. But while you’re kissing frogs, slaying dragons, or whatever other machinations you have to go through while dating – it’s great to stick up for your partner, but stick up for yourself first.

You deserve to be treated with respect. Everyone has different relationship goals, but generally speaking, respect plays a place in all of them, whether you’re after a booty call or marriage. YOU decide what it means to be treated properly, and make sure you realize, you deserve that respect and courtesy.

For example, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, getting that 3 AM text (R U Horny, Can I Cum Ova) after your second date is probably a good sign that your partner doesn’t see the relationship in the same terms that you do. If you’re open for a booty call, I’m not judging. What I am suggesting is that you ask yourself if this is respectful behavior.

I also realize that unlike me, not everyone is a planner. I always thought it was important to set up dates a few days in advance and confirm them the day before. If that’s not the way you are, that’s fine too. However, if your date calls you that day for a date (spontaneity is good) but is livid that you aren’t available, that’s very disrespectful.

Your friends aren’t there to stick up for you. You have to learn to realize that you are deserving of respect. But just remember – respect is a two way street and you do reap what you sow.