A bit overdramatic, but if you’re over 25, neither texting nor tweeting should play a large role in the growth and progression of your relationship. (I’m not sure if it has a place in the under 25 market either, but I haven’t been that young in ages, I’ll leave that discussion to someone more qualified).
Planning a date: (see other date planning tips at “Be a Man” posted a few days ago )
You’re about to tell someone that you want to spend somewhere between one and four hours with them. Have the courtesy, regardless of which gender you are, to pick up a phone and make a call. Yes, I said the phone, not email, a text, a tweet, a Facebook note, or any other technological method of avoiding a conversation. Now I know you’re busy, and I’m sure your date is too. But taking 5 minutes to call up and say, “Hi, are you available for a date on Thursday night” isn’t too much. And if it is, you really don’t have time to date. Now, if you two start trading voicemails, feel free to switch to email or texting, but at least make the effort to ask the person out in the proper fashion.
Post date texting:
You had a great time? Well, so did she. So don’t mess it up by telling her that in a text. But, I will say this – if he texts you to say he had a great time and wants to see you again, feel free to reply by text “Sorry, I don’t think it’s a good match” if you aren’t interested.
Proper use of texting and dating:
1) You’ve already called her and planned a date for Thursday night. Texting to say “Can we meet up at 8:30 PM at ________” is perfectly acceptable.
2) Although you would of course plan to be on time, if a meteor landed on your car, or King Kong came back to New York, feel free to text that you’ll be a bit late.
3) I got to the restaurant early and it appears that even with my reservation we’ll have to wait 30-45 minutes, should we try a different place?
Those are all wonderful uses of your text plan. The point, early on in a relationship, a personal touch will truly set you apart from other daters. Plus, if you’re really interested in the person, it really shouldn’t be so painful to have that quick call, should it?
As for texting for a booty call – I’m not going to even touch that with a 10 ft pole.
Caveat: If both of you work crazy hours and are typically unavailable to ever talk at the same time then email or perhaps texting should be used. But let’s be honest, how are you ever going to see each other anyway if you’re that busy.
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